A thought on thoughts September 8, 2018

We are thinking beings. We have tens of thousands of thoughts a day. And we are always FEELING the thoughts that we’re giving attention to.

Heck, it’s OK to feel anxious/sad/(insert any other emotion here) – we are only human after all. But whether we choose to STAY with those thoughts? Well that’s a choice. That’s the free will we’ve been given.

It’s not about changing our negative thoughts, replacing them, or fighting them. Rather, when those less-than-helpful thoughts come along, they can become ‘old friends’ – they can come and go – but you just don’t have to attach feeling to them anymore.

After all, when you realise the horror movie is JUST a movie, it loses its power…


When I first came to this understanding, my subjective experience of life changed irrevocably. Knowing that my thoughts create feeling, my feelings create action, and my actions create outcome, singlehandedly changed my outlook on life and the way I live it.

I realised that I’d been reacting to feeling, without considering that it was actually my thoughts making me feel sh*tty.

You see, here’s the thing about thoughts:

  1. There will be another one along in a moment.
  2. We have no control over them whatsoever.
  3. They are how we build our subjective experience of life – thought is at the heart of EVERYTHING we experience.
  4. It’s just a thought! (When you realise this, you become aware of how much life itself is created – and maintained – by thought. As author and coach Michael Neill points out – ‘Much of what appears to be solid and real is actually part of the illusion of our personal thinking.’)

And the coolest thing of all?

Since we have an unending potential for new thought, we’re only ever one new thought away from a completely different experience of being alive.

That’s so powerful, right?

Seriously, folks. Thought is a gift. Don’t always believe what you think. If you don’t like the movie? Change the goddam movie!

“You’re not afraid of what you think you’re afraid of. You’re afraid of what you think.”
Michael Neill.